Rosewicket Wicca Coven

Recently I've been having some relationship toubles, more passive than active. I'm looking for a spell or charm that could bring happiness and unerstanding for each other. I don't want a love spell or something to force a false smile on our faces. Just a nice little something to help us along.

We've been dating almost two years and we are most certainly in love. Of course there are conflicts, but this whole month has been particularly bad for us.

We have the whole introvert-extravert thing, so I can understand how I may seem a little dull sometimes, but she doesnt seem to understand what I'm going through.

Can anyone help me out?

Well, there are many ways to approach this. I'm sure if you write your own it would be affective, especially if you base it off a spell you have seen before.

This one has worked for me in the past:

You will need:

- sea salt

- a piece of paper

- a pen (can be as fancy and magical as you want, or a simple office pen or pencil will do)

- Rose petals, (or other flower symbolizing love), one petal for however many problems you wish to address.

- A candle, preferably white or pink

- A glass Bottle

There are no words to this spell, only visualizations, thoughts and actions. You may write words or a chant if you wish.

To Cast:

Write the main problem in your relationship on the paper. Make sure you do not write it as a part of the person or a decision they made, just an issue like ‘We need to communicate better’ or ‘we need to try to see other points of view more’.

By the flame of the candle, burn the paper. Visualize this issue melting away. (If you can’t burn the paper, tear it up instead).

Place the ashes in the bottle.

Now, pour in the salt. Let it purify the contents, giving your love a new, clean slate.

Next take the rose petals. In each one, pour the worries of your problems, one at a time. This is where you cab think of decisions or actions that have hurt you, even qualities of the person that upset you. Think of how they made you feel, address what you should do.

Drop each petal in the bottle, one by one. But you may not simply leave it at that. When you let go of the petal, you must forgive the action. If you find you cannot, then you must think of a way to improve the situation for everyone, not just you.

When you are done, fill the bottle with feelings of love and forgiveness, plus willingness to solve your problems. Picture it like a soft green light.

Close the bottle and keep it my an entrance, such as a door or window, to either your home or room.

Another, simpler, charm is this.

Also requires no words.

You will need:

-Something to symbolize your love

- a red ribbon

To cast:

Think of the issues in your relationship. Focus on the feelings. Hurt. Anger. Sadness. Stress. Whatever you feel, whether it makes sense or not, even if you can’t put a name to it.

Tie a knot in the ribbon.

Pour your feelings into the knot, the symbolic kink in the chain, whatever it is that is working against you.

When you feel ready, untie the knot.

Now wrap the ribbon around the object you have chosen to represent your love. Know that now that the problem is out of the way, your relationship is healthy and happy. Use the ribbon to secure this health and happiness to the both of you.

Thank you again Chi, I will definately try at least one of these. And I'll tell you how things work out.

Also I've checked the horoscopes lately. It seems virgos are having some troubles lately and it should get better closer to the 26th, makes sense, the 26th is also a full moon. Looking up, it seems the moon is in its final stage of waxing so now may be a very good time to try it, I also dug up some red candles to help me out.

Hi E.

Whatever spell or working you try can be backed up very well if you (or preferably both of you) carry a piece of rose quartz on you or keep it under your pillow.

It is a gemstone of love.. Love for yourselves and each other. It also helps and teaches both of you receive each others love more freely, and opens up the heart to naturally channel the energy of love.

I have also seen it to promote self confidence and balance too (as in general quartz) and could help balance the introvert/extravert aspect of your relationship!

Good luck... and Love ALWAYS finds a way!

Thank you as well Jet.

I casted the spell, and I guess things are working out. Communication was a lot easier and we both got some things off our mind. Although it was not the fairy tale ending I had hoped for.

She finally told me she needed some time alone to get things figured out. Prior to the spell she would just ignore my attempts to talk to her about personal things.

I told her about the spell's intentions (to make sure it wasn't against her will) and she liked the idea, we both believe we can move past this in time.

We aren't breaking up, but we are just giving each other some space. And as the introvert of the relationship, it couldnt be bad for me either.

I hope things all turn out well for you E.

It sounds like they will imo.

"Space" is just that and usually does bring people closer, as it proves respect for each other, which is a great foundation!